As for a man over-gifted with sound and fury or dulcet nonsense, his wife early begins to despise him, and he, wounded in his most delicate part—his vanity—early discovers that she does so. How is it that young people come to be introduced to each other? There are outward signs by which mental weakness may be suspected, if not recognized. The event is free; to attend. If this be done without publication of banns, or without the intervention of a minister of religion, it is irregular; and it falls equally within this category whether the consent is declared in the most open and authentic manner before a justice of the peace, or before a civil registrar, or before any unauthorised person taking upon himself to celebrate marriages, as used to be the practise at Gretna Green, or in the most secret and private manner between the parties themselves, with or without witnesses, and with or without any subsequent open acknowledgment. Let lovers visit the homes of their sweethearts, or those they desire to make such, early iu the forenoon, and if they find them tidy, the rooms in apple-pie order, and the mother neatly attired, they may rely upon it that the home education of the daughter has not been neglected.
Unmarried guests scrambled for the pieces, which they then placed under their pillows to bring dreams of the one they would someday marry. Those who have not given the matter much attention would, upon keen inquiry, be amazed at their number and variety. By any clergyman of the Church of Scotland, provided it be solemnized according to the rules, rites, ceremonies, and customs of the Church of Scotland. As well as having a lack of equality within marriage, women had poor working conditions, and an immense unemployment rate as well. The numerous infractions of that law and their consequences, often co miserable, only prove its universality and strength. The Bible, the Church, and the law all pronounce such marriages legal, and it is pretty certain that they were only objected to in the days of ecclesiastical tyranny for the purpose of bringing grist to the sacerdotal coffer by means of dispensations.
In concluding this branch of the subject, we should state that in all the respects we have above detailed the law and practice is uniform, whether the parties are Roman Catholics, Presbyterians, or of any other religious denomination except Quakers and Jews. Thus, what was the law of all Europe, while Europe was barbarous, is now the law of Scotland only, when Europe has become civilized. Talent and fortune raise people to higher levels in these days, and on the other hand there is a persistent and beneficent reluctance to descend lower. And to go a little further, is it necessary or wise that a young man who has received some education should marry a girl who has none, or if any, not of the sort available for him who has to rely solely on his weekly wages? The theories about love in a cottage vanish at the touch of worldly experience. The fees legally payable for a marriage by certificate are, or, rather, should be, under 9s.
In the provinces it is more, but generally under £3. It is in the full bloom of their spring and glory of their summer. Wounded vanity, being a hard matter to cure, may also have something to do with the explanation. The following is an excerpt from the text: Mrs. The Matrimonial Causes Court also has power to set aside all such irregular marriages; and it cannot be too widely known that neither sex is of legal age, so as to be entirely freed from parental or other control, until twenty-one.
Let it not be implied from these remarks that there are valid objections to late marriages; there are none that we are acquainted with. As we have hinted, we cannot pursue this subject in a publication like ours in the manner that it ought to be done; but we can without offence distinctly declare that those about to marry should regard it as a sacred preliminary that all inquiries into the character of the families with which they contemplate alliance are allowable, not only by custom, but prudence, and a reverent regard for those whom we in our heart of heart wish to be better than ourselves. They are usually the daughters of careless, indolent, or tippling mothers. So that it becomes a duty to avoid having bad mothers-in-law. It is seldom applied for or issued; on an average, about twelve special licences in the year are issued from the Faculty-office. We will also steer clear of the prevalent complaint that our English women are deficient in the art of cookery. Intelligence was not encouraged, nor was any interest in politics.
Those who have much, or indeed anything, to conceal try to hide it even from themselves. The moral diseases in families are as dangerous in their several degrees as those of the poor frail body—frail, only let it be insisted upon as a creed, because neglected and abused. And here we would earnestly direct the attention of young men seeking wives to a special bit of prudence to be observed before finally making a selection. We belong to hereafter, and the responsibility of being here makes itself felt in all the transactions we, as rational beings, have with our entire destiny. Carrying out the same principle, marrying for money is not an evil, because an equality, or an approach to equality, in pecuniary affairs is one of the safe guarantees of happiness in a worldly sense; it is the marrying for mere money that is wrong, for that is a gross sordidness that sullied the nuptial bond even with the signing. Therefore, in contemplating marriage, the sort of mother-in-law a young man or woman is likely to have should be matter for the most serious consideration.
At the time of the celebration, this schedule is required to be signed by the parties, by the minister, or person officiating, and by two witnesses ; and the married parties are required to return the schedule, so filled up and signed, for registration to the district registrar within three days after the marriage, under the penalty of £10 on the husband, or, if he makes default in payment, on the wife. Her chaperone had to be older and preferably married. To discourage an unsought suitor, on grounds of dislike, unsteadiness, or youth. Our young men, being in the minority, can pick and choose: our young women, being so numerous, are restricted to a judicious selection. It is granted only on special grounds, and for a pecuniary payment so large as to be prohibitory to all who are not in very affluent circumstances.
Generally—that is, taking the average of the whole country—they are under twenty shillings, more frequently only two or three shillings, above the fees justly payable under the Act of Parliament to a registrar, which are about 8s. The publication of banns takes place by the session clerk in the parish church at the time when the congregation is assembled for, and immediately before the commencement of Divine service. Whether the girls sought be tall or short, fair or dark, they must have some education ; the latter is a stern requisition with the bulk of the young and middle-aged men who have sought our advice in the matter. As we have already stated, nothing more is necessary to constitute actual marriage by the law of Scotland, as now established, than a present interchange of consent in whatever manner given, to become thenceforth husband and wife. For registration upon the application of both parties within three mouths, under Lord Brougham's Act, a payment of 5s. A lot of questions come to place when we talk about dating.