I think you just need to trust your partner and have faith that not everything he does is caused by depression. All the best Karen and don't give up on your husband or yourself! After the last fight she started, I apologized and stopped talking to her. During the first two weeks things were going well and normal. On the other hand, I have learned, by spending most of last year in therapy, to reclaim my self-worth and value my needs as I once did before I met him. Just offering to go will mean a lot to your partner, and if they specifically ask you to come along, take them up on it! If I had to leave him for my own sake, it would mean I would have to never talk to him ever again.
It needs to come from you. . I know he is going hunting sometimes but I fear he is getting closer to her while away. At least he only drinks 2 beers a night. I don't believe she will be helped without medication.
Most of my friends in Aus are depressed and taking meds! We both adored our new son, and there had been many family members and close friends there to support us and lend a hand. Is there a doctor or counselor you can see for support at this difficult time. Hope can come in many forms including faith in God, love for their children and any other reason that is meaningful for your spouse. We were together about 11 months. Heth x Originally posted by: Lynthi on 28 April 2011 Hi Karen, You are a very good woman to stay and try and help your severely depressed husband.
My decided that it was time to strt the meds again but then after a year she stopped cold turkey and our life has fallen apart. Thanks - Hi there, And welcome to the depression forum. Add to that a debilitating lack of sleep, and maybe a few more of these children pint-sized relationship assassins and its easy to see why it would be hard to draw the line between normal parenthood rigors and depression. He has to take some steps to help himself. His behavior makes me feel as if I did something wrong and I am being punished with the silence treatment even though I know this is not true. Chaya was upset about having to take pills, and is despondent over the fact.
Spend time with family and friends or just take some time out to treat yourself. I too am dealing with this. It is not a cowardly response, it is not a shameful response, it is not a cop-out or a dismissal of another problem. Doctor Visits, Late night talks when shes crying or sad. In the past few years, postpartum depression has had a lot of press.
Know that for many types of psychological therapy to be effective ego and pride must be left at the door. I stayed at my mums the night and the next day he said to get my things out of his house. I can't comment as I wasn't there in that relationship to judge. All I can say is that the comments made by these dear people gives you some great advice, I am so sorry that I can't help you, or maybe it just brings back my past, and this should not have happened, but it's a story so close to my heart. He lost his job, we lost our house, and his Dad passed away in one year. I cant even remember when we last had sex. She is having postpartum depression.
Do I tell my wife that I love her? Guard against this possibility by eating well, exercising, getting enough sleep, and staying in the Word. I wanted him to be happy with what he had, grateful. There is also a sense of shame attached to having a mental health disorder, which can prevent a depressed spouse from seeking help for a treatable illness. He gets what he wants by direct threat or innuendo. His depression doesn't keep him from his job, but it makes his work miserable. After an argument with his parents last thanksgiving, his mother stopped calling him because she is afraid of her husband. Personally, in my opinion I think your husband is cruel in the extreme.
Hi all, Ok, so this is an update from my last email sent in June 2016. I spend more time and energy chasing and maintaining good health than I do in any other aspect of my life — my marriage, family, work — because I know that everything meaningful and good around me depends on a stable base. The times I would catch you crying and you would try to hide it in a poor attempt to smooth everything over. Now he says I left him even though i remind him that he told me to go. He said I had always been patient and understanding with him, and everything between us was always easy.