Im dont know what to do, i cant trust her the way i used to, and im really afraid that she isnt the person she seems to be, im really confused right now but i really like her and dont want to break up. That would not be helpful to you or to her. How can I confront her about how this behavior makes me uncomfortable without coming off as scolding or jealous? If you have reasons to doubt your relationship with your girlfriend, if something seems off, and you pair it together with this sort of thing going on with her, then I'd say it's not something to casually dismiss. And now they're sending nudes of each other. How should I go about it? You can pretend to be anyone you want to be when you have sex with a stranger; It's being your authentic self, in and out of the bedroom that takes the most courage in a real relationship.
The only reason you care is because you are a teenager. From a female perspective, um, no you are not over reacting. Everything about this is super sketchy. So things only have the importance that you give them. If she has nothing to hide, she'll give it to you. But from the moment your out of your girl's life he will make his move to become her man. Just because she's not physically having sex with these guys doesn't absolve her from betraying you.
If any couple has reached the point of needing a lie detector to establish trust in one another, they might as well just call it quits and move on. So just let it be, and if anything happens the drop that beech, there are others. This one just happens to be one you're uncomfortable with. It brings us pride to receive them, and they are a treasure to keep. Just like i dont have any girls phone numbers and sit there and text them all day long. Give your wife the benefit of the doubt and discuss it more sounds like deffinatly jokes to me unlike my situation. Maybe she is just sending you the convos because she found something amusing and wanted to discuss or get your reaction out of.
Ben's Answer: A painful situation indeed. Affairs are rarely intimate in the true sense of the word. It's not cheating, hell it's not even close! Veteran since Red in '98. Attention from boyfriend not only means that he loves us, it means many other things to us , it tells us that you are attracted towards us, that you like spending time with us, that we are one of your priority and many more things. The guy that she will look back on as being just like every other guy. I was gonna ask her to be my gf and she's asked me when I'll ask her to be my gf. I for one enjoy a good laugh via text messages, it's harmless fun.
She will feel like you are a doormat and she can manipulate you easily. Was there something you wanted to show me or talk about? At that point you know you don't have to worry about dopey sh! I don't know what the outcome will be, but at least you will be honest and get it of your chest. And i really love her, but i just cant accept, we always had a very trusty relationship, never keeping any big secrets from one another and them she just come and tell me something like that? Well recently I typed her name in Google search and her picture popped up. I have male friends and we don't exchange pics. I have to carry my pain, take care of her, and somehow fix everything. I was worried about this too.
I honestly think that you have every right to be confused or troubled by this because if it was nothing at all, then she wouldn't have threatened to end your relationship. In time, we matured, grew up a little and evolved into sending trashy nudes to our boyfriends and girlfriends as tokens of our, um, lust. Brothers and sisters don't send each other smiley faces. Are you friends with them as well? I appreciate you bringing that up, why don't we discuss this on our next date this Friday? If you really have feelings for her and you really want to grow a relationship, then you can understand that what she did was a cry for help when she was feeling bad. Everyone's doing it, she says.
You are not going to earn any brownie points. Stop trying to control her this will destroy your marriage and accept you are insecure and prudish. Now I'm 31 and I'm embarrassed I ever acted that way. I agree that Wife should have told you about her Boss's inappropriate offer and it is good she quit the job, don't you think? She gets mad at me when I question her and will not let me see her phone. She should willingly agree or he to go through a lie detector test both of you actually and set the slate clean. Maybe even pick up your room — seeing a dirty pile of clothes and the rest of your takeout in the background kills the mood.
Open your eyes and stop being so tunnel visioned. Just hold it and see if more pop up and think about moving on and not looking back with complete no contact. Women with self-confidence feel like nudes are a way of owning their bodies and sexuality. All i worry about is 'us' and 'our' future together now. But for her to send these naked pictures of herself to other men while she is with you is no good. I would confront her, tell her how you feel about it, and then ask for her phone.
I agree dude, she is in the wrong. Unless you like playing games. A female reader, , writes 29 April 2008 : well all i can say mate is click on my name and go to my question and then you will no what unfaithful texting is. They should respect the boundaries in the relationship you have with your girl. He says I must forgive her and I'm really trying. If I were you, I would sit down and have a talk with her.