This set-up will not last forever, but each of us has larger career goals wants to put our careers on solid trajectory out of college. Very few are able to make that profitable, and the ones who do seem to link their art into something more practical medical textbook illustration, teaching, curator or are truly insane and create genius. Yes you love him, but stop trying to grow up before your time. I just wanted the best for her. However, now that he has decided to compete professionally, not only was she not upset, but she actually supported it even though she knows he will spend even more time training now.
She might not be a good state herself, she might know she is not at her best but she can't seem to care or motivate herself. Atm I have been avoiding talking to her because she hasn't slept for 3 days because of jaw pain. For a time he was unemployed and happy to collect a check from the government. Then eventually try to get a job. If love makes you a martyr, then apparently you thrive on pain and suffering.
Tagged as: , Question - 11 December 2007 6 Answers - Newest, 29 January 2008 A female age 26-29, anonymous writes: Hi, I need some help with a boyfriend and life crisis. However, my boyfriend doesn't have that many qualifications but still wants to go to college next year which is near the same place as my university. I guess I'm just kind of a go-in-get the job done and not waste time talking kind of person. I don't want to judge her or look down on her because she's not going to college right now, but at the same time I want a big house, loads of awesome sports cars, awesome clothes, enough money to easily put all of our kids through college, a private jet. A little about her; She is 22 years old and she has a mother who abuses prescription medication and a father who is an alcoholic.
It solves pretty much everything. Is it possible she's always thought of being a stay-at-home mom and that's why she has no particular aspirations when it comes to work? Suggesting to her that she should become more ambitious to accomplish what she's very able to accomplish is far from disrespect, pal. It is repetitive and stays that way, but you always need to look forward to something to have some kind of motivation. If you both want a family one day soon, how would you feel about him being a stay-at-home dad? She didn't do things his way. We have known one another for about ten years dating on and off, taking a four year break at one point. The other option is dumping her.
Two things happened that year: First, I met and started dating my girlfriend. If you have ambitious dreams and goals but your boyfriend just wants to live a quiet boring life, then yes, your boyfriend will drag you down. Tell them I referred you. So it works for us. That's essentialy what it is.
He seems to be showing an inability to adjust his expectations to his circumstances, which as an artist, just makes me cringe. It is me being who I am, family-oriented, that will make me want to strive hard for my girlfriend and our future family. You have to find something that you look forward to at all times, or else you might start becoming depressed. The questions that linger for me are these…. Some people take longer to go about getting their lives in order and this lass sounds like one of them.
Masculine energy is all about purpose, drive, mission, succeeding, accomplishing, breaking through barriers, overcoming challenges, etc. Just an idea - tell her you love her, want to take care of her, she doesn't have to get a job, just to be happy and to take her time with no expectations. Then you complain about the odd skipped shower and about some extra weight, although supposedly she is very beautiful with makeup. This is what Moimeme was talking about. She's a big party girl and likes to go out and have fun and all that stuff.
I'll say optimistically that this situation isn't impossible to recover from, but it sure as hell feels like it. If you're hoping she becomes a corporate executive I think you'll be disappointed. He needs you to give him a hand and pull him out. We are like chalk and cheese. But look at me now.
So it made me wonder, if he is having hard time providing for himself now, how is going to provide for me and the kids we talk about having? What if she saw no point to shaving or waxing every day in wintertime? Common-sense and what you get out of a relationship with a person determines whether being with them is worth it. I'm now a Senior Christian Studies major looking to soon start doing Masters work. She says I don't help. I think I'm being unfair but she has gotten lazy. Well, my gf and I are very much in love with each other and we've been going out for about 5 months now. I don't think he would have loved her no matter what she did. It also requires emotional, spiritual, and intellectual energy — and you have to really want to change.