She can only do it if you allow her to. But he needs to see it for himself. This seems to be something I have observed with other relationships similar to mine. Try and look at it like some of those classes when you were in school. If you are more concerned about your son walking away, then, by all means, put on a happy face. It could be just playing cars on the living room floor while you fix dinner or something.Next
With total disrespect and disregard. Neither of you want him in the middle of this. Isn't this what people would say if the genders were reversed? It often inspires adolescents to violate your trust and pursue the relationship anyway. Treat him like one and maybe he will act like one. In a nonjudgmental way, through true curiosity, consider asking your son what he enjoys about the person he is dating. It just goes to show that the 18yo girls his own age take much longer to mature, and this older woman is on his mental level.Next
I fell head over heels for a little blonde-haired angel. Does anyone know how I can make the transition easier for my son? Hell, he can always go back to court and get certain visitations adjusted, as well as other issues that need to be handled with the child. I hope you will always trust me to tell you the truth, guide you in the best direction, and gross you out with answers and details you don't want to hear. I say pray with an open heart as much as you can that: 1. The style is to show as much as you can at the top, the middle and the bottom. I know that sounds boring and you're thinking that I really just don't get it, but it's true. I feel a lot of you are not putting yourselves in our places.Next
Obviously your son is a smart man and she must be doing something great for him so no matter how you feel about her as long as she is being good to him you should try and accept her. I simply liked to keep that part of my life more-secret. Deal with the details of the situation. My bf and I don't get too see each other very often and most of the time our kids are with us. There is no need for her to know anything about you other than your name. Consider their emotional maturity and sense of responsibility.Next
Grown kids do this all the time. Play a game, read a book, sing together. You might follow his response with some guidance. What if the child hates your guts? Realize that the ex will forever be in their life. It seems the younger siblings need a lesson in this too, if she treats them badly. It is her way of controlling the situation.Next
You fall in love with not one person, but two. It's okay to let them down because you're a human being. I told my older brother about it and he said that I should just go with the flow and se what happens. You will not be able to do much to about the girl's personality and behavior, but the depth of the relationship and communication with your son will determine how much peace you can make. Both men recovered emotionally and financially eventually and now are happily married, successful and have beautiful children. It should not be something this hard to just want happiness and laughter for our sons and our lives.
I am sorry but there has got to be a line that shouldn't be crossed no matter what we are his family and deserve respect also. You may want to find out why she despises you, and go from there. Being serious about a mother means embracing her child into your life as well. Neither did my daughter but she did, saying whatever I tell him about her is a complete lie and not to believe me. He may end up marrying this girl someday, if you can't find peace with her and his decision making as an adult it will really drive a wedge in your relationship. Either way, this is not about you. Maybe she is attacking you because you are attacking her? If you text it, I may read it.Next
Who knows, you might love the kid, and really really love the mother, and end up in a great situation? She may even make you forget your cell phone when you're with her! So if you are attracted to her and you enjoy being around her I would say enjoy it. The only other thing I would take into consideration is to ask yourself if your son really seems happy with her. As for your specific situation, any child of a divorced parent I believe has trust, abandonment, and jealousy issues. Know that no matter what, I may not always like the choices you make, but I will always love you—and I loved you first, so remember that when you have to choose between going on a date or visiting your mother! But I promise I will never allow those feelings of sadness — and the overwhelming desire to protect you from anything that could hurt your feelings or break your heart — keep me from being there to support you. What can you do to prepare yourself and them? He isn't in a place right now to have a love life and that shouldn't be the focus of his or your attentions regarding his life.Next