Navigating the pitfalls of going out with a high earner Modern dating involves a number of obstacles, traps, and pitfalls that you must be aware of if you are to succeed in it. Jay is writing on behalf of his friend, forwarding messages from his friend. There is no denying that our difference in income has been a problem. If you are in a relationship with a woman who is making more money than you, you may be feeling a bit inadequate in this department. Or should you pursue and woo her regardless of what your pay stubs, bank statements, and portfolio say? Here are some tips on a breadwinning woman — without killing your confidence: 1.Next
In the early stages of dating, the rules are the same whether you're dating someone who earns more or less than you. What if your partner gets tired of you and leaves? Just point me in the right direction! Is it true that the person who makes more money in the relationship wields more power? His idea was to put our budget together and he would keep it and pay for things we decided to do. Focus on her, not her bank account. All women like to feel protected and secure in a relationship, and, again, money need not come into it. The great game is partly shaped by the natural inclinations of men and women and partly by the conventions of society. But her being the breadwinner is fine with me, as long as we both figure out the financials together. Short term fun sure, but relationship or marriage? If she makes more money, you should provide her emotional support and do housework.Next
Hold your own Finally, if your girl makes a lot of money then she is no doubt in some corridor of power and influence. Although there is nothing wrong with being pampered, you have to realize that material objects are not the most important things in life. She makes six figures easily without a degree and the only way I can compete is when I get my degree in one year. Well, that is only the case if you let it happen. The very first module starts you on value and values, getting you to think about the relation between various social values. You could make yourself so worried that you make less money that you unnecessarily in how you consequently behave. I'd happily look after my kids, work part time rather than go and work all day.Next
Learn to accept that and ensure that your partner does too. If I were single I would have no problem dating a woman who made more than me. User assumes all risk of use, damage, or injury. Instead of taking a trip abroad to celebrate the upcoming long weekend, plan a road trip to that cute bed and breakfast located only an hour away. Society was made to believe through the commercials that the picture of a perfect family should look like a man as a breadwinner with a loyal housewife by his side.Next
I was 7 years with a women who sometimes earned more than me. The thing to remember is that at the end of the day our paycheck is not what defines us. People should pay more attention to statistics. Do not resent your woman because she is successful. But she dumped me because as is well documented women look for guys with better education, job and money.Next
We live in modern times and although my male instints tell me I should be doing the 'hard work' my heart says otherwise! You can never expect to financially compete with someone who is an investment banker, if you hold the position of marketing manager. However, him working hard and being able to provide a comfortable life for himself is all thanks to his hard work and perseverance. Formerly a professor at the National University of Singapore, Dr. One or another of them probably wants your girl for himself, and he will try to do and say things that make you look unworthy of the person you want to be with. She will sometimes want to make your outings her treat.Next
She can do it instead : hahaha A person can't help what thier desired job pays. It seems unlikely to me that she would stick around for the long term. What you stand for, what your principles are in life, what your ideals are, what your purpose in life is, what meaning you have in life — was never determined, he never figured it out. The main cause of all the worry that woman makes more money is a gender stereotype. It's nice, but I didn't feel equal. You will be spoiling yourself by taking advantage of all the luxurious things in life that you are unable to afford on your own. This will hurt her and make her feel bad.Next
But eventually the beast eats you, it gets out of control and the whole thing blows up in your face. Maybe there are things you wish you could buy her but cannot afford. Then we held hands and walked on the beach under the moon. At the end of the day it does not matter how much money we have if we do not have love. It is part of the maternal instinct and there is very little to be done about it.
It seemed much easier, at least from the perspective of us menfolk, when it was almost certain that whichever woman you took out would make far less money than you or none at all. If you know that you cannot under any circumstances date a woman who makes more money, then you should let it go. The amount of income is not so important. I asked guy friends for their opinions, and their answers all looked like a variation of this:. She cannot help that she makes a nice living and more than likely she never set out in life with a goal of making more money than the guys she dates.Next
I do all right as a software engineer but she was very wealthy as far as I could tell. From time to time, you will be asked to meet them and be part of social gatherings that involve them. Is this an ego-bruising that you should walk away from? Once you have figured out the money disparity between you or she tells you about it, there is no need to bring it up again. People say that the patriarchy era was all about men controlling women. If you do not address this and let it happen, the two of you will end up resenting one another and before you know it, you can kiss your relationship sayonara. Such obstacles appear when the routine of family life starts.