Kids are very vulnerable during these years and have a need for privacy that should be respected. I beseech you — if nothing else — please have your daughter visit a good obstetrician-gynecologist to have a frank discussion about sex and sexuality. I mean, did he say that like he's doing you a favor? All information given is based only on Georgia law, and is not directly applicable to any other jurisdictions, states, or districts. While that might not matter if you were 45 and she was 25, at 17, she hasn't had a chance to sow any wild oats and needs to be able to do that if she desires without the constraints imposed by a relationship. In New Mexico a 15 year old cannot consent to sex and you could be charged with contributing to delinquency of minor.Next
While we intend to make every attempt to keep the information on this site current, the owners of and contributors to this site make no claims, promises or guarantees about the accuracy, completeness or adequacy of the information contained in or linked to from this site. That's also a sex offense when he's 18 and you are 15. It's the old expression of the blind leading the blind. Sex shouldn't be a part of your relationship. That means voicing your concerns and having a conversation with your daughter about her life and your expectations. That doesn't mean that you and she should not maintain any close relationship that you have established -- it means that she needs to feel independent from you so she can move confidently into her young adulthood. I don't and won't agree based on a lot of experience.Next
As I said above, I'm in love with her. A lot of men get themselves into trouble with this same dilema and i hate to see someone so young get himself into trouble. Your emotions are too uncontrolled and your brain is not yet fully developed. Other people's thoughts aren't really important if you're in a healthy relationship, but you should be prepared for the possible disapproval anyway. I know some 30 year old women who don't make the best choices for themselves and their children when it comes to men.
I'd advise you to figure out who you are and learn to really like yourself before you involve another human being in your life. She needs to know when to let it go, laugh it off, or just accept it and help you through. But I still can't shake the feeling of unease. Sigh Again, I am not criticizing you. Your daughter is a young woman, but she needs her parent to step up and get involved. From where I am sitting, your 15-year-old is doing what she pleases and her boyfriend is telling you when he is going to have sex with her, and you are the only one feeling uneasy? Back then, I thought I was so cool because an older guy liked me, but now, I remember him as a creep. There is only so much unattended time two teens can spend together before the inevitable takes place.
Realistically, I am not overly concerned that he is 19 years old. McGraw has used the show's platform to make psychology accessible and understandable to the general public by addressing important personal and social issues. We can keep the communication lines open, even if it appears that they are not listening. Our goal isn't to avoid upset or big feelings; those will happen on their own. Our goal is to open a real discussion with your daughter. Justia Ask a Lawyer is a forum for consumers to get answers to basic legal questions. The use of this website to ask questions or receive answers does not create an attorney—client relationship between you and Justia, or between you and any attorney who receives your information or responds to your questions, nor is it intended to create such a relationship.Next
But 4 months - what's the rush? January 31, 2018 Q: My daughter is 15, and I recently found out that she has started dating a 19-year-old boy. Your daughter needs you to help her navigate this relationship. One bad decision can really influence the way you feel about yourself for years to come. You won't be the first parent who feels disconnected from her teenager. It is your duty as a parent to face this with honesty and compassion.Next
Please do not confuse the casual and impersonal exchange in this or any legal chat room with entering into an attorney-client relationship. There isn't a magic age when a girl or a boy suddenly become mature enough to handle a loving, romantic relationship but at least wait until your brain is developed enough to give you the wisdom you'll need to make good decisions. I agree that forbidding a teen to do something is courting trouble and is the quickest way to invite sneakiness and lies. Loyalty is rare but if you find it itll all work out. But we are in the land of reality and not pure emotionality, so let's be practical here.Next
One who loves you reguardless of how cruel or wrong you may seem, not take it too personal or not assume its out of haste even when you try to fix it, because you do have issues i assume and its obviously hard. I think what you're describing above is friendship, which is healthy. Growing up is so hard and confusing and romantic relationships only serve to confuse that process even more. And call me jaded, but I have a very strong suspicion that if they are not already sexually active, they will be soon. First, let me address your specific parenting questions. It is excellent, highly readable and reassuring. I don't think it's a good idea for a 15 year old girl to date a boy of any age.Next
Two years isn't much when you're in your 20s or older, but it's a big maturity gap in high school. On issues like going out with friends who drive, drinking, drugs, sexuality and sex, we all hope that the values and beliefs that we have espoused to our kids will guide them as they navigate the troubled waters of adolescence. Is your connection so tenuous that a conversation will push her into total shutdown? Does he realize he could get in trouble? As you get better at being with her and listening, you may find a way from unease to some comfort in discussing your worries and thoughts with her. This response, or any response, is not legal advice. Your ex isnt going to help you through. Advice given here is not intended to provide a basis for action in particular circumstances without consideration by a competent professional.Next